"And finally, be ye all of one mind, sympathetic, loving the brothers, compassionate and humble,and not returning evil for evil, or scorn with scorn, but on the contrary, be ye blessed, because to this you were called, namely to obtain a blessing. "1 Peter 3: 8-9
Many things are coveted bride over what will happen to their marriage one day. Many would-be couples who feel confident that they can certainly overcome all the problems that will come their marriage hit. They feel confident that they know each other and even knew the ugliness respectively. So that they are sure will be able to resolve any issues that would come hit household.
But dreaming of marriage and marriages are two very different things. Living together with people who have different backgrounds will bring up the issues that were never imagined before. Any small problem can become a major problem. Problems can arise from different habits between partners, ranging from how to store clothes, how to put a towel, how to brush their teeth, how to educate children, until the problem is more complex as financial problems, and so forth.
No one ever knows what problems will arise when we undergo a marriage. Everything will happen with it without ever noticing.
Not a few marriages that fail because they do not find a solution to the problems they face. In the end they gave up and decided to split up, because there is no longer a match.
The decision to split / divorce is certainly contrary to the Word of God. What has been united by God can not be separated by man.
"So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. "Matthew 19: 6
So how can marriage to continue until death separates? How can the problems that arise can be resolved properly? How that contention may be reduced or even avoided?
God's Word teaches three main secret for the wedding to be harmonious and survive in the face of various problems:
1. The wife submits to her husband
"Likewise, ye, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, so that if any of those who do not obey the Word, they are also without the word be won by the behavior of his wife, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives them." 1 Peter 3: 1-2
The wife should understand his position in the wedding. As the church is subject to Christ, who is the head, then the wife should submit to her husband who is the head of the household. This position should not be reversed, because it is impossible Christ submits to the church. Therefore, God's Word clearly stated that a wife submit to her husband.
For those who have husbands who fear God, of course, apply if it is not as heavy as her husband not know the Lord. But under no circumstances the husband, whether he be good or bad, the wife must keep learning to submit to her husband.
Attitude bad husband does not need to be confronted with the emotions, because it will not solve the problem. The problem will only grow spiky if faced with emotion.
Attitude of patience and gentleness must be practiced by the husband and wife in the face of an attitude that is not in accordance with God's Word. With this attitude of gentle Spirit of the Lord will work touched the hearts husband. There is no way the most powerful addition to the way of God in winning the hearts of the husband.
It has been quite a lot of testimony stating that the husband finally changed completely after seeing their wives being patient and gentle in dealing with their rudeness. Many husbands and wives changed when practicing the word of God.
2. Husband and wife respect
"Likewise, ye, ye husbands, dwell with your wives, as the weaker! Honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. "1 Peter 3: 7
Being a husband is not an easy task. The husband must be able to be a head for wedding / her household. The husband must be able to be a leader for his family and set good examples for their family members.
But often a great responsibility often make disparaging the husband his wife. Husband often assume that his opinion was the one who really care about the opinion and never his wife. This attitude can hurt his wife. It also can be a trigger for domestic quarrel.
At the time God created Eve to be a companion first man Adam, God took Adam's ribs. God created a helper fit, not lower its dignity.
"The Lord God said:" It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make a helper for him, which is commensurate with her. "" Genesis 2:18
The husband must understand that if God had brought them together in a marriage, then God has made them one and not two anymore. Therefore, the husband should respect his own wife as she respects herself.
Husband must learn to listen and respect the opinion of his wife. Husband who wanted to honor his wife in this way will find that God's pleasure in their household. God will bring harmony to their marriage.
3. One heart
"And finally, be ye all of one mind, sympathetic, loving the brothers, compassionate and humble,
and not returning evil for evil, or scorn with scorn, but on the contrary, be ye blessed, because to this you were called, namely to obtain a blessing. "1 Peter 3: 8-9
Of heart is the key to households in order to be blessed by God. When the wife is already subject to a husband and wife to respect her husband as a partner that is worth, then they must always agree under any circumstances that they face.
So many problems that make the husband and wife have to take a decision. Not infrequently there are differences of opinion in the decision making. Whatever the final decision, the husband and wife must both agree on it. If one does not support the decision taken, then it is the beginning of a bigger problem.
Encourage each pair. There is no harm if one wants to budge. Precisely at the moment there of heart, the Lord will bless our household. Hallelujah!
"Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord, because the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to sanctify, after her by cleansing her with the washing of water by the word, so that thus he put the church in front of himself with brilliant without spot or wrinkle or something similar it is, but so holy and without blemish.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies: He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. "Ephesians 5: 22-30
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